The Journey Through Boundaries, Change, and Healing

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

Proverbs 4:23

This post is a reflection of my healing journey.  A return to self, guided by faith, inner work, and the soft strength of the divine feminine.  As an empath, I’ve carried what wasn’t mine, doubted my worth, and forgotten part of myself.  But through intentional shifts, sacred boundaries, and moments of stillness, I’ve begun to remember who I am.  This is a story of surrender, transformation, and the beauty of becoming whole again.

As an empath, I’ve learned that healthy boundaries are essential, not just for peace, but for my wellbeing.  My natural instinct is to help, to hold space, to carry.  But over time, I realized that I was taking on burdens that were never mine to hold. 

I realized I can only truly help others by helping myself first.

So, I started doing the things my soul was quietly asking for:

I cared for myself through self-care.

I went outside and grounded myself in nature.

I cleaned by space physically and spiritually.

I allowed myself to feel to really feel.

I returned to unconditional love ….for me.

For a long time, I saw boundaries through a lens I was taught:  that they were selfish.  But now I understand-setting boundaries is a sacred act of self-love.  It’s not selfish.  It’s how I protect the light within me.

For the first time in a long time, I began reconnecting with my divine feminine.  The side of me that is open, vulnerable, nurturing.  The side of me that wants to be, not just do.  That leads with intuition, softness and trust.

I stopped comparing my journey to anyone else’s.  God created each of us uniquely, for a reason.

And then something inside of me stirred, a memory of who I used to be.

The girl who loved living.

The one who danced instead of walking.

Who had sunflowers in her eyes and fireworks in her soul.

I started played music again, hoping she’d hear it and come out.

I began looking for beauty in small, ordinary moments.

Because I knew she’s still in there.

She just needed my kindness, my effort, my love to rise to the surface again.

At the same time, I knew change couldn’t happen unless I made it happen.  I couldn’t expect to become who I was meant to be while standing in the same spot. 

So, I made the shift.

I changed my mindset.

My outlook.

My reality.

I stepped outside your comfort zone – scared, but willing.  And what unfolded was nothing short of magnificent.

The Healing Power of Affirmations and Space

I started writing affirmations, gentle reminders to my soul that I am held, loved, and guided.

I surrender my concerns to Jesus, because I know I am heard.

I simplify my thoughts and give myself space, because not everything needs to be done right now.

Everything is happening according to plan.

I dissolve negative and self-limiting beliefs from my body, mind and spirit.

I cleaning my space, physically, digitally and my thoughts.  There was deep emotional healing in that clearing and it took time.  Healing takes time. 

But with every gentle choice, I began to trust myself again. 

I worked on releasing self-doubt.

I stayed present in my own life. 

I started to love myself again, truly.

I remembered:

This life is mine.

I am enough.

I always have been.

Keep shining your light ✨

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  See, I am doing a new thing!

Isaiah 43:18-19

Sometimes, you get what you want.

Other times, you get a lesson in

Patience

Timing

Alignment

Empathy

Compassion

Faith

Perseverance

Resilience

Humility

Trust

Meaning

Awareness

Resistance

Purpose

Clarity

Grief

Beauty

And Life.

Either way, you win.